tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-204295766188828386.post3729859322209818241..comments2023-06-26T05:04:11.202-05:00Comments on The Drake Department of Domestic Development: Change in the nighttime routine.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17055016069862054255noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-204295766188828386.post-75970863918656876882009-06-04T11:57:34.215-05:002009-06-04T11:57:34.215-05:00I did have another thought overnight-- you could p...I did have another thought overnight-- you could potentially try doing a "dream feed" (where you'd go in and feed her, say around 10pm, while she's still half-asleep to help get her through the night. I personally was never a big fan of that method for a few reasons, but have also known many people who swore by it and it seemed to be the only reason their kid slept in till 7am instead of waking up at 3. <br /><br />(all the above - in both comments- aside, I've found that most of the time, doing what comes naturally tends to be the best option)Marcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00792375260633790983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-204295766188828386.post-28718009545836157642009-06-03T22:36:36.509-05:002009-06-03T22:36:36.509-05:00First of all, can I comment on how truly A-MA-ZING...First of all, can I comment on how truly A-MA-ZING it is that you have a 4 month old that only wakes once at night? ; )<br /><br />An online friend of mine has been working on sleep-training her baby the past few months. She was also very anti-cry it out so was trying the no-cry sleep solution tips but they weren't working. Then she found this book called the Sleepeasy solution (or something like that) and she said that's worked like a charm. Apparently that method revolves around a consistent bedtime routine-- that in popular culture we know to have a "routine" but that most are not long enough or effective enough to really get a baby ready to sleep well, and the book goes over how long it needs to be and what kinds of activities to incorporate. So, if you're interested, that might be something to look into.<br /><br />If she only sucks for a minute and goes right back to sleep, then yeah she might not be hungry. If she actually eats, she may be needing the nutrition. And, as so often happens in motherhood, it's often so hard to tell which is "right" or "true." I will say that I think the way babies sleep, while partially influenced by parents, has SO MUCH MORE to do with them, their unique temperament and habits, and we kinda just go along for the ride. Also, I honestly believe there is very little we can do at this age to permanently scar them as long as we're attentive and nurturing the majority of the time. Certainly her waking schedule now, or whether you nurse her back to sleep or not, will not scar her. <br /><br />I could be wrong, but most everything I remember reading said to basically take the "by whatever means necessary" motto to sleep for the first 6+ months, meaning do whatever gets everyone the most sleep. If that means nursing back to sleep, if it means sleeping in the same bed, if it means doing 10 jumping jacks together, whatever-- just do it. No need to worry about the rest of it yet (instead you might wanna watch out for all the sleep-deprived moms who are secretly plotting to switch babies with you so they can get a decent night's sleep).Marcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00792375260633790983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-204295766188828386.post-9591769197227524972009-06-03T21:45:53.531-05:002009-06-03T21:45:53.531-05:00Welcome to Motherhood - the state of eternal guilt...Welcome to Motherhood - the state of eternal guilt! <br /><br />FWIW, my sense is that she's too young to be really worrying about this, or trying to reduce night-time waking. You definitely could be right that she is really not hungry - just checking to see if you are there. But I don't see any harm at all in nursing as reassurance (at THIS age). Most importantly because it works! So far you've got a SUPER happy baby - partly because you do respond to her so quickly and effectively. <br /><br />I don't think nursing at night (even more than once) can cause lifelong mental scarring until some time after the age of 2.Donna Kinneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116120453630212535noreply@blogger.com